Readings for today: Jeremiah 39-41, 2 Timothy 1, Psalms 90-91, Proverbs 26:1-2
I grew up next door to a bully. I was younger than him. Smaller than him. Weaker than him. He made it his goal in life to torment me. Every day I would run outside to play with all the kids in our neighborhood and he would be there waiting for me. The next thing I knew, I was running back inside in tears. My mom first encouraged me to ignore him. When that didn’t work, she encouraged me to stand up to him. When that didn’t work, she encouraged me to punch him as hard as I could in the mouth. That effectively ended the bullying. As I grew older, I knew I couldn’t solve my problems through violence but my feelings still got hurt. People still said mean things about me. Still made fun of me. Still attacked my character from time to time. And something my father used to tell me - that I used to find incredibly frustrating - has stuck with me. “No one hurts your feelings…you allow your feelings to be hurt.” No one has emotional power over you unless you give it to them. No one can harm you unless you first make yourself vulnerable. Now I realize there are all kinds of implications to this advice. Some positive. Some negative. But it’s the first thing I thought of this morning when I read these words from 2 Timothy…
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” (2 Timothy 1:7)
The world tells us we need to be afraid. The world tells us we are weak and vulnerable. The world tells us we are victims of our circumstances. And sometimes the world is right. I know far too many who’ve suffered abuse. I know far too many who’ve faced discrimination. I’ve known far too many who’ve been the victims of terrible crimes. These things are real and I do not want to diminish them in any way. At the same time, I’ve also known far too many who live with a spirit of fear. I’ve known far too many who refuse to take responsibility for their own emotional health and well-being. They make themselves vulnerable to all the wrong people at all the wrong times. They are the victims of their own poor choices and when confronted, they blame-shift. They believe the lies that they are powerless, helpless, and hopeless. Their despair is heartbreaking.
Friends, God has not given us a spirit of fear. He has given us a spirit of power, love, and self-control. He has not left us helpless and hopeless, abandoned and alone. He has given us His Spirit and where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom. You have been given a spirit of power so that you might transcend your circumstances. You have been given a spirit of love that is in no way contingent on the actions, attitudes, or response of another human being. You have been given a spirit of self-control that allows to fight against both your sinful nature and the corrupt systems of this world. Don’t believe the lies! You are not trapped! You are not a victim! You are not a lost cause! These things do not define you!
If you are in Christ then you have been filled with His Spirit. The same Spirit that sustained Christ through His life, death, and resurrection now lives inside of you! Think of all Christ endured in this life. All the injustice. All the abuse. All the suffering. All the pain. Think of the wrongful imprisonment. The mock trial. The extreme torture. The agonizing death. And yet Jesus never plays the victim. “No one takes my life from me, but I lay it down of my own accord. I have authority to lay it down, and I have authority to take it up again. This charge I have received from my Father." (John 10:18)
In some strange way, my father was right. No one hurts my feelings unless I let them. No one takes my joy from me unless I allow it. No one takes my peace from me unless I first give them permission. I have been given authority over my life through Christ. I have been given authority over my body through Christ. I have been given authority over my emotions through Christ. I have been given authority over my mind through Christ. Does this mean bad things will never happen to me? Of course not. In this world we will suffer. In this world we will face trials and temptations. But my life is now hid with Christ so I no longer need be afraid. I’ve been crucified with Christ and no longer live so this world has no hold on me. This world has nothing for me. My eyes are fixed on Christ who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising its shame.
Readings for tomorrow: Jeremiah 42:1-44:23, 2 Timothy 2:1-21, Psalms 92-93, Proverbs 26:3-5